twenty-one weeks new

We had made a big decision.

A decision to stop fighting you

and to just go with the flow.

Despite being a fantastic sleeper when you were first born

you seemed to be getting more unsettled at night.

You appeared to be a really light sleeper

and were easily disturbed.

We had been trying to settle you down without feeding you

thinking that you didn't seem hungry,

but our attempts wouldn't last long

and you would only wake again later on

and prove harder to settle.

So we decided to just let you lead for a bit

and see where you took us.

So we were back to two night feeds

but all getting more sleep as a result,

and while we knew everyone would be happier if you slept through,

we also had learned from being parents

that sometimes, just sometimes, the child does know best.

And you seemed a lot happier during the day and the night

so it seemed like the best way to go.

You were happiest when you were with your best friend,

and your best friend was definitely your big brother.

Mummy and Daddy felt so amazed watching your relationship grow

and you loved having the in house entertainment

that a big brother brought you.

You would stare at him until he smiled at you,

daring him to look your way and then beaming at him;

his cuddles would quiet you,

as he said "cuddle the sister";

and his dancing would see you in fits of loud belly giggles.

We suspected you wouldn't always feel so fondly about each other

but it made us so proud to see your obvious love for one another.

We loved that you had slotted so perfectly

into what we had already thought of as a perfect unit,

you just made our lives even happier,

just by being you.